Marriage was once held as part of divine God’s plan to make couples happy, giving them responsibility in taking care of their children, and to populate the Earth and make humankind prosperous. But with the birth of the Age of Reason during the time of the Ranaissance in middle age Europe the holy matrimony has been placed under scrutiny and the sanctity of marriage was questioned all together. Fast forward to today almost every country on Earth has a high divorce rate as couples can’t seem to get past their marriage problems and just give up on each other.
Divorce in America Hits Record Low According to a University Professor
Doctor Philip Cohen a sociologist at the University of Maryland discussed the downward trend of divorce rate in the United States and found that from 2008 to 2016, the U.S. divorce rate dropped by 18 percent. He goes on to mention that the reason for this leveling off of divorce in recent times are millennials. He said that because millennials are more educated and financially settled they get married over the age of 25 and couples are able to deal with their marital problems in a cool-headed and mature way, thus they have no reason to separate and just keep on building stronger family ties.
This is rather unusual as the issue of divorce was first highlighted in the United States as being a Christian nation the Bible explicitly advises against it. Still record shows that The median length for a marriage in the US today is 11 years with an 11% divorce rate for highly educated couples versus 17% divorce rate for lower income couples. It appears that money and lack of understanding for each other is still the driving motive behind divorce rates. There are still a high number of attendants of couples counseling as well which indicates the high unsatisfactory level in married couples.
Common Reasons Why Married Couples Divorce
Marriage is a delicate thing and, in fact, more politicians are able to resolve world-threatening issues than husbands and wives do. You can imagine divorce as a pit of death surrounding your castle where from time to time you may have to engage in battle with your husband or wife, and one wrong step and you could fall into this pit of death, which will result in the end of your marriage. You’d have to attend relationship counseling for months or even years if you want to save your marriage.
The point is that you’ll need to have a lot of patience and communicate your thoughts and feelings in order for your marriage to work. This is why if you don’t love your partner and you’re in it for any other reason, then you will not last for more than two years in your marriage. While there are plenty of reasons why married couples divorce the list below seems to be the most common ones:
1. Money Problems
2. Issues with Children
3. Daily Stress
4. Busy Schedules
5. Poor Communication
6. Bad Habits
Signs of Marital Problems and When to Seek Professional Help
• When communication has either become absent or always focused on the negative.
• When one partner had an affair, or one or both partners are considering to have an affair because they’re unhappy in their marriage.
• When the couple seems to be “just occupying the same space.”
• When married couples are unable to come to terms with their problems and work them out to find a solution.
• When the husband or wife show disdain for their partner from negative emotions.
• When it appears that separation is the only solution.
• When the husband and wife agree to remain in the same household for the sake of their children.
What is Marriage Counseling?
Marriage counseling is a type of psychotherapy designed for a married couples or established partners that uses positive approach via helpful strategies to resolve issues in their relationship. Throughout the couples therapy the counselor will help give the husband and wife tools to communicate better, negotiate differences, problem solve and even argue in a healthier way. All of these things are part of the strategy to remove stumbling blocks in their relationship and help improve it to foster a healthier happy lifestyle for them and their children.